Today is Affection’s day.

What does that mean, exactly?

Many of us grew up in homes that were less than affectionate. Or homes that were downright devoid of appropriate affection. But…

Today is Affection’s day!

Today, you don’t live under the power of what others have (or have not) done to you, or for you. Although we were created to live interdependently, we will always be let down by those around us – because we are all human – but today, we realize that Jesus gives us the power to intentionally create our own legacies!

So how do we go about doing that? Let’s start with the basics.

We all need touch.

We need to have someone reach out and let us know that we are seen, heard, loved. Whether or not we have our own touch quota met, we can choose to be the source of healthy, soul-filling touch.

Your friends, your spouse, your children need the gift of your touch. Start with a simple pat on the back, or a gentle touch on the shoulder. Hugs are almost always an appreciated greeting, whether it’s been minutes or years since you’ve seen one another! Grow towards long spells of snuggling on the couch while watching a movie or holding hands while just talking.

I’ve been reading the book called “52 Things Kids Need from a Mom” by Angela Thomas, and her second chapter is centered around this issue. Angela confirms that kids NEED their moms to touch them often – a hug and a smile when you first see them in the morning, a gentle brush on their shoulder when you pass in the kitchen, a tender kiss on the forehead when you say goodnight. Whether we like it or not, we are each already passing on a legacy to our kids – will they someday grow up and shy away from hugs from people they love, but not know why? Or will they look back on their childhood and remember many, many such hugs, kisses, tickles and “I love you”s?

If you feel like you’re in need of more touch from the people you love, open the lines of communication right now. Choose the person whom you feel understands you and cares for you the most, and describe to them what you’re feeling and brainstorm some possible solutions with them. You matter!

Touch is a universal language. 

A simple touch speaks volumes about what you feel about a person.  Intentionally using this method of nonverbal communication can make a world of difference in the relationships that surround you.

Touching someone can break down boundaries from culture, age, or gender…

Touch can communicate acceptance, forgiveness, friendship, sympathy, comfort…

The way you respond to other’s touch also says a lot! Take some time right now to give thought to how you generally react to the way your friends, spouse, or children touch you, and what your responses are communicating to them. Are you unintentionally communicating that you’re too busy for them? Are you unintentionally communicating that you don’t ever want to hug *that* particular friend? Are you unintentionally communicating that you dislike being close to your children or your spouse?

Touch can heal.

Can you think back to a time when you were suffering, and someone’s touch sped up the healing process for you?

I recently miscarried twins. I went to the ER three times in the span of one week due to complications from the miscarriage. It had been a long time since I’d been in a hospital, and I was stunned by the sterility of it all. You were never touched except to have your IV placed or your blood pressure taken. And even then, it was clear that the touch was not meant to be affectionate or comforting – it was strictly business. But ONE nurse took the time to sit down, talk with me and ask questions because they wanted to know my heart, not because they had a chart to fill out. He provided tissue after tissue as I cried, sympathized with me, and yes – while sitting at the foot of my rigid ER bed, he reached out and placed his hand gently on my feet. He said nothing, but his touch communicated what I needed. I was not alone. I was not just another emergency. I was a person. My pain mattered. And I mattered enough for him to intentionally reach out and touch me and offer what help he could.

I came across this story the other day. Believe it or not – but it’s certainly applicable right now!

Take the Leap! Start NOW to change your habits of affection. Give it a little extra thought and effort and enjoy the benefits that will soon follow in your relationships!

Today, we choose to start forming our own legacies with power and intentionality!

Stacey Joy

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I am a young mother of a few small children. I write this letter from my heart and hope that it speaks to yours.

I need you.

Did you know that?

Myself and many of my fellow young mothers found ourselves getting married, buying our first homes, and having our first babies without enough practical preparation. As a whole, we are a generation of confused and overwhelmed mamas, desperate for mentors and teachers, desperate for vision, desperate for hope.

Many of our own mothers worked outside of the home full or part time.

Many of our own mothers may have been present physically – but not available emotionally.

Many of our own mothers bought into the lies that the Enemy and our culture propagated that told them that housework and childrearing are disposable jobs that could easily be offloaded to maids or daycares while they pursue their “true” life’s work. 

Many of our own mothers weren’t taught by their own mothers.

And perhaps you weren’t, either.

Glory be to God Almighty that there is hope for you, there is hope for me, there is hope for each one of us!

Because truly, families without hope equals a world without hope.

God had a plan for avoiding this breakdown of the sanctity of motherhood. But now that we’re experiencing it firsthand, the same plan now has a different purpose – to undo the damage that’s been done. The plan is written simply, to us, in Titus 2:

³ Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, ⁴ and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, ⁵ to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.

Vision for parenting and childrearing is to be passed on from generation to generation. Not only in books and blogs and homemaking seminars, but in the daily nitty-gritty of life. In woman to woman talks, in my living room, in your kitchen.

Practical tips for parenting and childrearing are to be passed on from generation
to generation. Why should every generation of new mothers have to wade through massive amounts of information and articles and “how-to’s” to figure out the most simple things in life?

A heart for home, husband and youngsters is to be passed on from generation to generation. No more of this affair with apathy and flirting with falsities – it’s time to proclaim that our work on the homefront is among the most important work known to mankind – and that it can and does and WILL impact eternity. 

And indeed, every one of us is an “older woman”. We are ALL Older in one way or another, whether it be spiritually or literally, than other women in our lives. I’m calling you out. It is time to take responsibility.

Therefore, it starts with you. And it starts with me. And together, we can change the direction we’re headed. We can actually offer hope to our own daughters, to our own neighbors, to the very world!

And so – I strongly plead with you to prayerfully consider Titus 2:3-5.

Ask God to show us, all of us, what it might mean to become Titus 2 women. Ask Him to open our eyes to see the implications our choices have had, as well as what changes we must make to see this dream become reality.

For all women, everywhere, and “that the word of God may not be reviled”.

Stacey Joy

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