Dear Older Woman

Dear Older Woman,

I am a young mother of a few small children. I write this letter from my heart and hope that it speaks to yours.

I need you.

Did you know that?

Myself and many of my fellow young mothers found ourselves getting married, buying our first homes, and having our first babies without enough practical preparation. As a whole, we are a generation of confused and overwhelmed mamas, desperate for mentors and teachers, desperate for vision, desperate for hope.

Many of our own mothers worked outside of the home full or part time.

Many of our own mothers may have been present physically – but not available emotionally.

Many of our own mothers bought into the lies that the Enemy and our culture propagated that told them that housework and childrearing are disposable jobs that could easily be offloaded to maids or daycares while they pursue their “true” life’s work. 

Many of our own mothers weren’t taught by their own mothers.

And perhaps you weren’t, either.

Glory be to God Almighty that there is hope for you, there is hope for me, there is hope for each one of us!

Because truly, families without hope equals a world without hope.

God had a plan for avoiding this breakdown of the sanctity of motherhood. But Two happy women laughing while sitting in bed at homenow that we’re experiencing it firsthand, the same plan now has a different purpose – to undo the damage that’s been done. The plan is written simply, to us, in Titus 2:

Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.

Vision for parenting and childrearing is to be passed on from generation to generation. Not only in books and blogs and homemaking seminars, but in the daily nitty-gritty of life. In woman to woman talks, in my living room, in your kitchen.

Practical tips for parenting and childrearing are to be passed on from generationOma, Enkel und Katze
to generation. Why should every generation of new mothers have to wade through massive amounts of information and articles and “how-to’s” to figure out the most simple things in life?

A heart for home, husband and youngsters is to be passed on from generation to generation. No more of this affair with apathy and flirting with falsities – it’s time to proclaim that our work on the homefront is among the most important work known to mankind – and that it can and does and WILL impact eternity. 

And indeed, every one of us is an “older woman”. We are ALL Older in one way or another, whether it be spiritually or literally, than other women in our lives. I’m calling you out. It is time to take responsibility.

Therefore, it starts with you. And it starts with me. And together, we can change the direction we’re headed. We can actually offer hope to our own daughters, to our own neighbors, to the very world!

And so – I strongly plead with you to prayerfully consider Titus 2:3-5.

Ask God to show us, all of us, what it might mean to become Titus 2 women. Ask Him to open our eyes to see the implications our choices have had, as well as what changes we must make to see this dream become reality.

For all women, everywhere, and “that the word of God may not be reviled”.

Stacey Joy






  • Kari says:

    Love it! I’m working on something similar 🙂 This is my new goal out here with my new church. I want to encourage all women to participate and take up a Titus 2 attitude! I just realized a few weeks ago that even though I’m still a young mom or mom of young ones I still have plenty of wisdom to pass on to women that are newly married or new moms! That’ where God’s leading me! It is so great to see!

  • Sandy says:

    Hi Stacey,

    I just popped over to your blog after feeling led to respond to your comment on Holley Gerth’s blog and the first thing I saw was this. I’m an “older woman” (54 in a couple of weeks) and although I’ve longed for years to have a godly older woman to mentor me, I’ve recently been feeling the Lord leading me to mentor others. I’m not exactly sure what that will look like, but I’m praying about it and I’m saying yes to whatever God has in mind. Your blog feels like confirmation, so thank you for that.

    In Christ,

    • Stacey says:

      It is so encouraging to meet you! Thank you for taking the time to comment.
      I don’t remember which post I commented on at Holley Gerth’s site. But THERE is a woman with a strong gift of encouragement!
      I’d love to get to extend an offer to pray for you and/or to get to know you better. I have been praying for a mentor (someone who will simply encourage me in the ways of the Lord and offer advice in difficult times), but that doesn’t necessarily mean that we are the right fit. I am proud of you for starting to listen to the Lord’s leading instead of bemoaning the lack of older mentoring women. I am sorry that this dream has not been realized in your own life, but encourage you to go boldly forth! He has great plans for you and is using women just like you to redirect our country’s future!!
      Your sister in Christ,
      Stacey Joy

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